Thread: need comfort- having a tearful girlie moment

Lol- where else can you whinge to people who dont know your partner!
My boyfriends being a twat!!!
To those who dont know me and think Im being unreasnoble, Im possibly the most low maintenance girlfriend possible- erring on doormat, and all I expect in return for listening to him bitch and moan and always being cheerful for him is once in a while for him to ask if Im ok or give me a bit of a cuddle or something, and when I mentioned today that Id been so stressed I now had a physical illness to now deal with (Something like psoriatic arthritis- its horrible and stops me working) He snorts and says "what coz of your "stressful life"" Umm, self employed, self supporting, running a home on my own, just had a run of family deaths and my brothers losing his sight- YES my stressfull life! he then went on to tell me a long story about his mate whos mum killed himself, and walked off to play with his f****ing model plane!!! In comparison my sh*t of an ex boyfriends reaction to me mentioning things had been a bit hard was to offer to take me off on holiday or to come and crash at his place till i felt better!
Sorry, but if I dont say this to someone Im going to kill him when he turns up later.
I love him but sometimes hes a real insensitive prick- any cuddles joyfully recieved :'(
XXX

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Awww. Big cuddles for you my lovely.

Hope things pick up for you soon. X

PS. Stamp on his plane 'by accident.'

LMAO- that is such good advice! I think a small act of vandalism would just suit my mood right now! XD Im listening to all my disney soundtracks to put myself in a slightly more mellow frame of mind- angry corsets are not a pretty sight!!
BTW, I love your name!
XXX

Sod Disney, get some RATM on and get plane stomping!

I think we need to remember he is a man after all! They work at different emotional speeds than us!

But in mean time break one of the wings of his plane!

oooh hun i know how you feel sorta, im going through a sticky patch with my OH too,
your not alone, it pulls on my tassels when men have "MANTRUM'S" there so self absorbent...(not all men Im not having a manrant here)
keep smiling and remember KARMA!
thats what i keep doing

Grrrr - men. They really are on a different emotional level and only seem to give comfort cuddles when you explicitly ask for them (which defeats the object). Big virtual hug to you, and yep, Itoo think you should go and damage his plane. Not a BIG amount of damage, maybe just 'accidentally' trip over something and land on it....

xxxx

Aww hun that sucks *big hugs* I hope venting a bit on here makes you feel better. I too suggest some RATM - angry music is good to help get rid of frustrations.

I don't know your boyfriend so it's difficult to give advice, but when guys do things like this usually it's just them being thick/oblivious. They don't intend to be but somehow they end up acting like twats. I usually just spell it all out - explain why I'm upset etc because sometimes this stuff is beyond blokes. And as much as you wish they knew how to make it better without you telling them explicitly, you just have too.

That's men for you... my boyfriend can be the most insensitive arse in the world sometimes. Totally selfish and just wants to do his own thing regardless of me or the fact that we live together. If I dare mention that I'm upset with his behavious he kicks off and makes me feel like the bad person. Maybe you need to have a good long chat with him about his attitude?

remember hunny you dont need him...you have chosen to be with him.
you are a successful business woman and from what ive seen and read on here a lovely person too...there will always be someone or something in our lives to challenge us and sadly they usually end up being our partners

you deserve the good things in life even if its just a quick hug and the are you ok? now and again...tell him that that is the kind of support you need from him...exp-lain in VERY simple terms cos he is a man of course...butmost of all hunny truly believe that you deserve that kind of support from him and he will hopefully come round...i guess its keep focused on what you want and it will come right...but in the meantime chill out hunny give yourself the comfort and support youneed,look after and be kind to yourself...congratulate yourself on being where you are anf treat yourself like you would like others to treat you...inshort babe have a good cry, then take some very valuable me-time and enjoy it. hugs and love ann. xxx