Thread: Boyfriend's approval.

I'm my own person.

Blah, blah, blah.

I know that. I know that I can make my own decisions, but while making these decisions I also want the people I love to back me up.

My boyfriend's opinion is basically, "As long as the bra stays on, you can do burlesque , otherwise, do not expect me to back you up on it," which means that while he wouldn't "make me not do it" he definitely wouldn't approve of it. Which..well, makes me sad.

The questions he's been throwing at me:

Why are you fascinated with taking off your clothes?!

Why does the bra NEED to come off?

Any help?

EDIT: He'd like the to ask the good ladies of MoB what their husbands and boyfriends think of their burlesque ?

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Ok,
in burlesque no clothes HAVE to come off at all. Plenty of performers also only go as far as to reveal a bra.

Here's some examples:

YouTube - The Chantilly Belles

YouTube - Missy Malone & Leyla Rose Pillow Fight - Candy Box Burlesque

YouTube - Beatrix Von Bourbon - Winter

Originally Posted by Angel LaVey

Ok,
in burlesque no clothes HAVE to come off at all. Plenty of performers also only go as far as to reveal a bra.

Here's some examples:

YouTube - The Chantilly Belles

YouTube - Missy Malone & Leyla Rose Pillow Fight - Candy Box Burlesque

YouTube - Beatrix Von Bourbon - Winter

In my act I'd want them too, though.

For me that's a part of it all!

Then you need to tackle the issue with your boyfriend. Is he worried that by doing this, you will be unfaithful?

Could sitting him down and showing him videos, taking him to shows perhaps help him to understand?

Your breasts will still be covered, well kind of..

Originally Posted by Angel LaVey

Then you need to tackle the issue with your boyfriend. Is he worried that by doing this, you will be unfaithful?

Could sitting him down and showing him videos, taking him to shows perhaps help him to understand?

Your breasts will still be covered, well kind of..

He says that kind of thing should stay between him and me. Right, and the few inches of skin that my bra covers make it more modest...

You could just tell him to get lost and find someone a tad more supportive and less threatened by it all.
You could also think about answering his question may be not to him but for yourself why do you think these elements are so important to your performance? As Angel said you don't have to take your clothes off but hey if you want to then go for it and don't let anyone tell you otherwise!
kx

He's just said he won't back you up on it, right? He hasn't said anything about not letting you do it or anything like that? This is good - it means he's not trying to control you or anything and is just a little insecure (in my opinion, at least >_<).

I personally think that badgering him to change his mind and support you is not the way to go - he might dig his heels in and get even more opposed to you stripping . I'd just tell him that's what you want to do and then try to ease yourself into performing slowly. After time he might well come to realise that the bra staying on makes little difference, and become more accepting of the whole thing. Take it slowly, respect his opinion, but ultimately, make your own decision and don't try to force him to think the way you do. It might just work out for the best. If it doesn't, well ... cross that bridge when you come to it

I think this is something you really need to have a good chat with your Boyfriend about. I agree with Fleur trying to force him into being ok with you removing your bra is not a good idea.

People tend to get a bit upset when told what they ought to do or have the ought to feel. His feelings may well be more in depth than you think.

Best wishes what ever you decide to do.

Originally Posted by Angel LaVey

I think this is something you really need to have a good chat with your Boyfriend about. I agree with Fleur trying to force him into being ok with you removing your bra is not a good idea.

People tend to get a bit upset when told what they ought to do or have the ought to feel. His feelings may well be more in depth than you think.

Best wishes what ever you decide to do.

I actually just send him the link to all of this...

Originally Posted by Gaelle

I actually just send him the link to all of this...

That might work :-)