Well i've wanted to do it for years and when i met my current partner i figured i could start because he being a lover of Burlesque OBVIOUSLY wouldnt have a problem with it........erm.....wasn't quite right.
Though he can talk about the artistic merits etc of Burlesque when i told him he wasn't sure he wanted other blokes oogling my goodies!! Typical Hey!

However he's now got used to it! SO once i lose the weight ive put on and work calms down i'm getting stuck back in! And i Cant wait!

see now i think thats the same as my guy! he is happy for me to go topless on the beach but COVER the nipple and shake 'em about and thats another matter! lol! :roll:

That's just weird - when I used to go to the beach as a teenager I was happy to oggle the women going topless and get a cheap thrill out of it. I love Burlesque but I very rarely get a sexual thrill from it!

I am a husband of a Burlesque performer. I don't have a problem with my wife performing because I trust her to be faithful and loyal to me, just as I am to her. I realise that men could be sexually aroused by her acts, but the reality is men can be sexually aroused by simple things like how the hair falls on a womans head. Short of covering up my wife in a big baggy oversized bhurqura (is that how it's spelt?) I cannot stop anyone from thinking about her, and even if I put her in such an outfit men would just fantasise about her gorgeous eyes!

I think the big issue of anyone performing who has a partner is to find out what the real issues are behind the resistance to you performing. Finding out the resistance doesn't mean you can perform and have a harmonious relationship, but it could.

I'll stop being a counsellor now.

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My fella is really supportive. He helps with my music gives me advice on how to cut material when I am making costumes. I can not cut a straight line lol. He also gives me feed back on routines, even if I don't want it and films the odd one for me. He does not come to as many gigs any more after three years he is very picky what nights he comes to and what performers he wants to see. I think I am very lucky he see's it makes me happy and he knows its him I come home to so he is not worried in the slightest.
Diva x

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My boyfriend was quite bemused by it all to start with. He wasn't really aware of the burlesque scene and equated it as just another word for stripping.
However, after seeing his first Live show he thinks it's wonderful. And surprised me by liking the same routines that I loved (I thought he'd prefer some of the more sexy bump and grind but like me loves the comic ones) (Although not to say he doesn't appreciate the bump and grind in certain ways).
He's realised that it's not so much sexual titillation as much as a celebration of confidence.
He's aware I aim to be a performer and now really supports it.

He'd seen various you tube clips that I'd sent him but it was really the live performance that made a huge difference in his attitude, The audience's reaction did more to dispel doubts then anything else. (Or it could have been the girls around him in corsets )
This is a very long winded way to ask if hubby to be has seen any live shows :-)

I think me and Diva are with the same guy........

lol!!! i think he is just a bit hesitant about me stripping off!

thats fab!!
i think this is the issue but he has at least said he would like to go see some live shows to see what he thinks! good sign me thinks!!!

I wondered why he was so tired lately, stop wearing him out you I want my go lol
Diva x

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You should definitely get him to a performance - I reckon it will make him feel a lot easier.

I think one of the problems with people who haven't been to a performance is not only what happens on stage, but more worrying for them - what the audience is like/does. I have to admit I was very surprised when I first went - I expected loads of drunken blokes shouting 'get your kit off' and trying to grope the acts. Seeing so many women in the audience (in fact the majority being women) and the majority being supportive of the acts, wanting them to do well - it was a real enlightment.

I bet he'll love it and feel an awful lot easier about it.

My husband is totally supportive of me wanting to do burlesque - he very much enjoys being my audience as I'm developing routines and does gives constructive criticism. He also is very 'pleased' (yes that's a euphemism) when other blokes oggle me and yet knows he's the one who gets to take me home