Good evening!

Are there many girls on this site who have had children, then gone on to enjoy performing burlesque/ posing for pin-up shots?
I have been besotted with burlesque for a few years now, and always saw myself doing it in some form, somewhere along the line.
However, I am currently 8 days overdue with my first child, battling with stretchmarks and fretting about my tummy and busoms! (being 23, I'm hoping I have youth on my side here.) For those who have had kids, has it had a big effect on what you do? Or is it nothing to fret about?

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Hi Honey, Welcome to the board

I am proud to be mum to my two monsters. A 2 year old and a 5 year old. Both were born after I started performing (cabaret rather than burlesque). So far as my body goes, burlesque has been fantastic in allowing me to accept the body having two children has given me. I have curves and jiggles I never had before, but they're totally a part of me so I don't give a damn. All the photos in my member gallery were taken post children. Corsets are my friend! In fact I get more self conscious about my bad skin left from acne, chicken pox and measles than I do from stretch marks, etc

The only downside to having kids is that none of my family live nearby so I have a constant problem with childcare. I also think this could lead promoters to thinking I do not have the drive to go forward with my performing, as I'm not always available to take a booking, but neither are people who work funny hours, etc, so i'm happy to continue and prove myself

Good luck with everything. I went 10 days over with my first and I know just how long the days are at the end! If you want to pm me with any burly or in fact baby questions feel free xx

Keri -x-

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Aw, thank you! That's reassuring!
Think I'm going to be best friends with my corsets after the birth too, I've been stocking up, in anticipation of getting my wiggle back!

Cheers! *clink*

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I loved my preggy body and performed ten days before my wee one was due but she ended up being two weeks late! She's 17 months now and the best thing that ever happened to me but I have to admit that I have been left dreadfully unhappy with my post baby body.I always had stretch marks so they don't bother me so much ( knees to boobs!)but the mess left of my stomach after the emergency Caesarean Section has totally zapped my confidence and means I will NEVER be seen without a corset again...I'm hoping I will be able to deal with it one day but for now the horror of what I'm left with is a constant reminder my birth didn't go as I hoped. I did NOT spring back to myself after the birth- I didn't talk to anyone or leave the house for 5 weeks and found it hard accept I may never be able to fit into my old clothes again as my ribs have expanded as well as my waistline and stomach. Even now I'll sometimes creep into the security of maternity clothes since at least they fit. It's good you have your eyes on your slinky wear to keep you focussed and positive as somethig to return to- I wish I had the confidence to wear my old brighter and skimpier clothes but that's a long way off for me I fear

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hi soooo sorry you feel less confident. i know what you mean though, i have 3 kids-takes ages to recover in all sorts of ways.people say be happy as you are ,thats good if you can manage it.i thinkyou need to treat yourself to a great outfit that enhances the beauty of who you are now .i must confess i think i need a nip and tuck.have you seen the latest how to look good naked?

I'm guessing that Hollipop has probably given birth by now (surely not 12 days over).

Let me tell you, and this isn't a terribly widely known fact because people are scared of admitting it with decades of fashion police/media/society telling us young and thin is the only kind of beauty we should all admire - it's a lie - there are a huge amount of people out there (admittedly many of them scared into polite silence) who adore yummy mummys / milf and larger, curvaeous women.

I have to admit its taken me a long time to discover this - but I've got two kids, one who'll be going to secondary school this year - and I'm getting more admiration and wolf whistles etc than I've ever had in my life.

And the biggest shock - how many men love wobbly tummys! Yes, we've been told to hide them away, to suck them in, to dress in rent-a-tents - but there's a significant amount of men (and probably women too) who like roundness and wobbly bits. You watch people's faces whenever there's a great belly-dancer performing!

And do you know what? I'm glad my bum looks big in this.... Blokes love it!

However, I totally realise that if you as a person don't like bits of your body - that's fair enough - I can't force all the 16+'s to convert overnight. We've been conditioned to think we should diet continually and squeeze into those smaller sizes (and for all you natural and happy with yourselves size 8s, thats great too - I get really angry with the press going from one extreme to the other - either chastising the size 22s of us or the next week telling size 6s to eat a proper meal).

The sexiest thing in the world, no matter what the size or shape or wobbly bits, is confidence - I know personally it can take a long time to rebuild.

The only thing I would definitely definitely say to any new mums is AVOID THE URGE TO SPEND ALL YOUR MONEY BUYING GORGEOUS CLOTHES FOR YOUR GORGEOUS BABES/KIDS and HIDE YOURSELF in oversized sweatshirts and baggy jeans. It is JUST as IMPORTANT for your kids for you to be a happy mum, and times will be tough as well as happy - so MAKE SURE you spoil yourself and spend time when you can, pampering you. You'll get so many pressies for the baby, make sure you make yourself feel cherished. It's very important. And watch Gok Wan - the man is a god, and he can tell you how to make the most of your figure and feel a million dollars not 'just the mum'.

Welcome to the Red Hot Mamas Club - we're here to put the mmm mmm mmmmmm into MILF.

(steps off soap box before they start throwing things)

Sorry for the sermon, I'll ssssh now.

hi it is very difficult to love your own body after child birth because quite often it is almost a new body it looks so different and alien. definately men like a few curves though, particularly in the bum area. i really agree in treating yourself to a new outfit or a bit of pampering, it is not selfish because you are a role model and you would want your children to look after themselves when they are in your position now. i made my hubbie throw away all his clothes recently and we chose new things for him.my 12 year old son said he wanted a shirt like dad and hugged him saying he had a trendy dad he was so proud. i bought a few new things now it is over 12 months since my 3rd child and my first daughter sat and admired my necklace and said i was such a big girl now with my pretty things, in her 2 year old way she is looking up to me being a big girl like we encourage her to be.obviously money at these times can be tighter and sometimes my outfit doesnt quite go but thats where confidence comes, i think you can pull anything off with confidence and you almost become radiant.if you dont have confidence pretend or even pretend you are someone else who does have confidence,everyone will believe you are confident and it makes it easier to be. every person has bits they dont like anyone see embarassing illnesses recently?if it is really that bad that you cant dress to enhance it and it makes you depressed think long and hard then if it is still bad get it professionally looked at! i think women are gorgeous and size and droopiness has never prescribed what i find sexy.