Thread: Burlesque and Dating!

Ok so I have been single since June and I have to admit that i am getting a little annoyed with the whole dating circuit at the moment.

I tend not to let on about the burly side of me until later (either a couple dates...or a couple of drinks lol) But more often than not my clothing tends cause too much drama for me to bother telling the rest. I mean who doesnt wear leopard print dresses?!

Some of my vanilla ( non-burly) friends think I should consider dressing down but i dont want to completely hide myself! I mean I go to bloody tescos in my leopard print so its not like I dont wear it all the time!

Ok so my rambles will halt now.

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It's a bit pointless trying to hide a part of your personality to "get" a date as it will only lead to heartache an annoyance further down the line. Be proud of your leopard-print and the right open minded guy will be there for you

Then again given my perennial singleton status and propensity for putting both feet in my mouth by accident you would be well advised to ignore anything I say on dating

Bless you.

yesterday I went on a date and it was AWFUL!

he had his mates in the bar area and when I came out they were scoring me!

I've compleletly given up so unfortunately have very little advice!! Sorry sweetie :worried:

Good luck :hug: :hug: :hug:
Axx

Oh wow, he sounds like a real charmer!

I agree with edn, you shouldn't have to dress down. When you meet a nice guy who you click with it will be because of who you are, not the way you dress. If you stay true to yourself then you will know if someone likes you for the real you :yes:

As a single teenager I was told by my mother that I needed to dress trendy if I was to get a girlfriend, no woman would want some bloke in a black leather jacket and an Anthrax t-shirt.

Today I still wear the same kind of gear and I'm married to a very sexy woman who likes what I wear and how I look. My wife and I also share a total lack of interest in what is or isn't trendy.

I wonder, if you vanilla how you look and act to land a man then what happens to the part of you who wants to wear, do and be a certain way? Also, what type of man do you want to land - will the vanilla Khandie or the real Khandie get who you want?

Relationships are about compromise, but how much are you willing to compromise to have a partner?

I love you Gehenna. Angel has found a good un with you!

Hi Khandie
From an evolutionary psychology aspect, men (not all) get a tad uncomfortable if a female requires "mate guarding" i.e the worry that other men will possibly attempt to poach/steal her? You need to absolutely be yourself, what is the point if your not! I've been with my partner for years, he doesn't really like the way I dress, mainly I think because the look is attention grapping, not attention seeking although it's never really caused difficulties for us as a couple. However, (and the boy's aren't going to like this) the male ego can be very fragile and primitive. Good example being the male reaction to the colour red, which scientist now recognise as provoking passionate feelings in men mmm but not in women lol. I work in mental health so I'm not just saying this, it evidence based. I think we all go through this process of sorting the wheat from the chaf so to speak but keep a SoH, laugh and laugh some more. If your interested in this type of stuff you might find Helen Fisher's work useful maybe but definately interesting.
Remember your an intelligent, attractive woman who can accommodate without compromise.
Things will work out just fine.

Originally Posted by Lainy

However, (and the boy's aren't going to like this) the male ego can be very fragile and primitive.

I could be deeply offended...

...if it wasn't true ops:

Originally Posted by Khandie Khisses

he had his mates in the bar area and when I came out they were scoring me!

And I bet they all gave you 10 out of 10! You are gorgeous Ms Kisses x:love: