Sorry, John, I hope that didn't come over wrong - I wasn't accusing you of straight copying I was picking up on you putting yourself down slightly saying you wouldn't be as femme as the beautiful lovelies already out there - what I was trying to say is you will be beautiful in your own way. It's taken my husband quite a while to become more womanly, I hope he doesn't mind me saying that at first he did clearly look like a bloke in a dress by the way he held himself and was quite self-conscious. But each time he puts on a bra, dress and makeup he becomes more femme each time.

I know what you mean about the getting inspiration from performers with the minimum amount of movement though - being a big woman I can't do the complicated, wonderful dance-orientated routines that some of the fab performers here can do and if I did I'd just look silly - but I can use comedy and I can do-less-is-more seductive. Check out Dirty Martini, she oozes feminine sex appeal and I think you'd like her stuff, there are some vids on her myspace page. Leyla Rose too, her myspace page also has some vids to watch. If you can ever get to see Crimson Skye too, I'm sure you'd love her style.

Hey you! I won't have a word said against my lovely bum! But yes, I'm pretty jealous of my hubby's legs

Do you wear a corset? Coz if you don't you gotta try one, not only will it make you feel better about your belly (I'm with December Charm here, don't diet unless you're really unhappy with it) but I suspect it would help with the transformation into Michelle too. I know when I put them on I feel way more sexy and my husband loves them too.

You should call yourself something with Ma Belle in it, that or Miss Très Bien Ensemble