aw dolly, im sad to hear that youre considering giving up as i think youre a fantastic performer. still remember you well amongst many burlesquers i've seen perform over the past few years, and it was quite a while ago i saw you!
maybe people at your work would be more understanding if you did non-stripping burlesque, like the chantilly belles who are brilliant. although thats a big modification to make to existing acts when your work may (hopefully) never even find out, OR if they did, would still find the thought of burlesque distasteful even with no removal of clothing.
keep us updated with your decision if you can, hope you find a way to keep both sides of your life balanced